Introducing Home for Good
I can’t remember when I first heard about Home for Good. I do remember being amazed and relieved that they existed.
From my late teens, I have wanted to either adopt or foster. I don’t know if the seed was planted when I watched Tracy Beaker as a pre-teen; if it was meeting foster kids at church; or a curiosity about why the Bible tells us to care for orphans. What I did develop was a desire to give children who didn’t have a family a home and family. So when I discovered that there was a Christian organisation dedicated to helping families adopt or foster, my curiosity got the better of me.
Who are Home for Good?
“Because every fifteen minutes in the UK, a child will come into care.”HomeforGood.org.uk
Home for Good was founded out of a desire and motivation to see more children in care placed with families and loving homes. However, it isn’t just founded on a heart for vulnerable children. At the centre of Home for Good is the Biblical incentive to care for those who do not have a family to protect them.
“A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families.”Psalm 68:6
“Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress.”James 1:27
“Learn to do right; seek justice. Defend the oppressed. Take up the cause of the fatherless.”Isaiah 1:17
As the Home for Good website points out, we don’t use words like fatherless and orphan very often anymore. Yet that doesn’t remove God’s call in the Bible to care for those who do not have families that love and protect them. It isn’t just about cute, small babies either. The Bible tells us to take up the cause of the fatherless. Not “fatherless under five years old” or “under one year old”. There isn’t an age limit on who we are called to care for. We are simply called to care for vulnerable children.
Home for Good realises this. In a conversation with Terence MacMath for Church Times from 12 May 2019, Krish Kandiah (the founder of Home for Good) said,
“We’re asking people to foster and adopt children from an altruistic motive — not family completion by a couple who can’t have a baby. The children who need homes are older, with many ongoing emotional, physical, and behavioural challenges.”
This is such a key part of the Home for Good DNA. It is not about enabling adults to complete a family. Instead, they want to see children have the family that they need. They want to connect people who want to provide a home for a child, whether through fostering or adopting, with a child who needs that home. This means the focus isn’t just on babies and toddlers. They also highlight the need to care for older children who can often be passed over. At the core, an understanding that all children need love and support and care no matter their age, personality, or experiences.
Home for Good does this in a number of ways. They work with adoption and fostering agencies while also going to people who could be but haven’t considered caring for vulnerable children. Whether it is through enabling individuals to explore adoption and fostering; encouraging churches to support individuals in their communities making those choices; or being a voice on a public stage for vulnerable children, Home for Good is using every tool they can to make sure these children are cared for.
What Can You Do?
We’re a mixed bag here at Finding Chaya. Some of us are married while others are single. You might be in a very well-paid job or you might be unemployed. Maybe you are already considering adopting or fostering. Then again, you might be wondering why you’re still reading this because no way can you adopt or foster right now.
As I said earlier, I want to adopt or foster one day. Unfortunately, as I’ve grown up I have had to face up to the reality of what fostering or adoption means. It means being financially secure enough to take on the responsibility of a child by choice; adoption and fostering never happens by accident! Then there is also being healthy enough, in every sense of the word; having a strong support network; and being sufficiently stable in your career to provide a stable environment for a vulnerable child.
I’ve had to realise that a lot of the factors needed to adopt or foster children in care are out of my reach right now. I’m a single woman who makes enough to cover her rent, living expenses, and unexpected extras that so often come up. Financially and relationally, there are too many unknowns for me to feel that I could safely foster or adopt right now.
Maybe you feel the same way. Fortunately, there are other ways that we can support Home for Good as they carry out God’s call to care for the vulnerable. On their website, Home for Good talks about spiritual pacesetting. Part of this enables people like us to be involved even though we can’t adopt or foster. This might mean encouraging your church to use their resources for various services throughout the year. It could be connecting with Home for Good as one of their champions in your church. Or maybe you book a speaker for an event. It all comes down to the same basic action: use your voice to speak for those who can’t be heard.
You Can Make a Difference
The point I’m trying to drive home here is that you don’t have to be able to adopt or foster to support Home for Good or be a voice for vulnerable children. If you have a desire to see all children placed in loving homes and a voice to talk about those children, then you can do your bit. Plant the idea of adoption during a conversation. Mobilise your church to get involved with fostering. You really can make a difference.
If you are in a position where you are able to adopt or foster, can I please take this moment to encourage you to do just that. Get educated about adoption and fostering. Talk to organisations like Home for Good. MOST IMPORTANTLY pray over whether this is the right move for you.